My ex guy and me

• don't think it cost much to change the number; I got it done FREE by verizon when I told them I was getting unwanted, harrassing calls.  
• check that out and see if he is using a B.S. story (cost) not to change.
• if he is BSing you on that and if he really knows its not big cost, then he sounds like he is up to no good and might BE no good (lying, if is is lying; its possible he is just "mistaken" about the cost).
• does he want you to change or does he not worry or care about your studs calling you?   If he does not care about that, I am then thinking he might not want an exclusive relationship with you AT THIS TIME.  You know ... "let me have my cake and eat them all too".
• maybe you should back off yourself FOR NOW on wanting to take it exclusive at this time ... don't you enjoy and of the studs on your address book?  Could you, maybe you should.  I am not sure this guy is ready for exclusive and I don't see any reason for you to be so exclusive to him and killing your other male contacts, if he is not willing to do same ... in all fairness.   If he loves you and if he is willing to give up what he is getting elsewhere, then out of consideration for you, he should be willing to give up his herd of others ... with a possible exception of one or a few if he can make the case and if you can buy it, that those few are JUST FRIENDS and not sexual buddies or romances (and it is VERY POSSIBLE they could be; just you have to try and get to bottom of that).
• Note:  jealousy and exclusivity demands on a guy not there with you will usually DRIVE THEM AWAY.  Its like trying to get an alcoholic or drug addicted person to put down the booze/drugs to make you happy ... most will refuse and if addicted to whatever, they will give up a relationship (or kill it) in many cases so they can have what they crave or are addicted to ... and that could be sex or other women for this guy at THIS TIME.
• If in doubt, instead of tightening his collar to the point he "runs" ... consider backing off and telling him that you do not feel (your senses) that he is quite ready for an exclusive relationship yet and you don't want him by using control/demands ... that you rather let him be free and when he gets it out of his system and is ready to take it up to "exclusive" you might be ready and willing to do same (if it does not take to long and if you do not get involved with someone else while he is "thinking it over and getting it out of his system").   If he readily agrees, there is a BIG MESSAGE there for you.   And it means you should go back to non-exclusive on your side too and be open to the possibility of finding a "New and Improved Mr. Right".

That's my opinion on your limited facts.   Hope dat dare helps ya!

Good luck,

Rob

I like what Rob said.  But I will add this: Stop trying to control your ex-boyfriend!  Even if he changed his number, he could still give the new number to girls.  You cannot control everyone he talks to and everything he does.  You need to have a life of your own, which does not include having to second guess whether or not your ex is seeing other girls. If you can't trust him, let him go!  And stop having sex with him until you know for sure YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE.  If he knows you are there for him, anytime he wants you, he will continue to do exactly what HE WANTS TO DO, because he knows he can!  He has no incentive to commit to a relationship with you, because he's getting all the sex he wants without committing.  Back off, let things cool down, and act like you don't care.  Then see what happens.

Excellent, wise advice that Babs has given.  

Keep up the good work Babs and good to see you here!

Rob

Sometimes immature boy's who are lacking self-esteem, needy for love & attention will try to not have much alone time if any at all in between girlfriends.  He will have them over lapping. Some females do this also.  Insecure people make this a pattern in their relationships.  They wear blinders when going from one rebound  relationship right into the next bad hook up that will end just like the last.  It's very unhealthy and toxic to say the least.  Instead of taking some time after a serious relationship has ended to access what really went wrong with it. To really see their own fault in it being a bad relationship.  They just  live in total denial. They refuse to see their part in it.  But we all know that it takes two to tango right?  They just won't stop long enough to figure out what they can do next time to avoid getting together with the absolute wrong person for them. And refuse then to grow & mature. Refuse to let their inner voice speak to them like happens when make alone time for ourselves to access & admit our short comings so we can become much wiser next time not repeating those things that ruined their previous relationship(s).  Being able to do this means you are mature, and care about getting too serious with the wrong person. Relationships are very hard & very damaging when together with the wrong person for you.  Especially a marriage with the wrong person when children are brought into the bad mix. A persons got to really be honest with themselves.  See it all.  The good, bad, & ugly. Get to know themselves better first before moving on into a fresh relationship with someone new. Get to Understand what it is they really need from someone else to them to be ideal for them then in a serious relationship.  Now is  you ex-guy doing this? To me it sounds more like he is than isn't. So what does it mean to you then?  If he is quick to pick fights now that he has a few other girl's numbers  and saying he needs space splits leaving you home alone on a saturday night with your guy numbers all wiped out of your contact list in your phone.  It means you are being kept strung on the line until he is sure to have the next one already filling your shoes. And well too.  They want to not go without the sex and companionship I'm guessing.. And I've noticed that they will settle on anything & everything coming their way if it's you that's given real signs of his being dumped in the very near future.  They justify their very bad behavior of being deceitful to you with a long list of wrongs you've done over the span of the relationship that they claim hurt them & made them feel unloved and distant from you.  I know this will be hard but try just  keeping your distance.  Keep yourself very busy.  Resist urge to call him. Let him call you. Until you feel he is 100% honest with you don't give him sex.  That's right.  NO SEX!  He doesn't deserve it.  Respect yourself first then so will others. When he stops playing little boy games with other girls he dangles in your face, & sneaks off to whisper a conversation with in another room of your house- then you give him a little bit more of you.  Good luck to you now.  

If he doesnt want those girls to call him he would put them in their place so that they wont call him again. He needs not be disrespectful but needs to be firm in his response to them they will get the picture. He doesn't have to reply to their texts or answer their call when he makes himself staight. Changing the number is not the problem. He will not hide his phone if he has nothing to hide. 

He is going to do regardless of what you want. Just because he gets his number changed does not mean hes going to stop talking to thoughs females. All you can really ask him to do is to not answer his cell phone when he is with you. Other then that is all you can really do. If you cant handle this then you should just move on.