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Emotionally Abusive Relationship?

I think I'm in an emotionally abusive relationship, but I don't know. It's hard to talk about and I really need help with it. My boyfriend and I are both 18 and have been going out for over a year and we met each other on the internet (don't worry I made sure he wasn't some sicko and talked to his mom before I went out with him). He doesn't like it when I get close to other guys and gets really jealous when I talk about other guys (he even gets upset when I talk about my favorite male singer!). He makes me feel guilty when I eat certain foods like chocolate and candies. He's always holding onto me and hanging around me when he visits and it really makes my family upset. He likes to touch my body even after I tell him no and his reply is usually "I like touching your body because I think it's sexy and I love you". When he upsets me he makes me feel guilty by crying and saying that he's stupid. He doesn't like it when I go out for walks and I feel very much trapped. I'm scared to go out any more and I gained 40 lbs. My school counselor even told me that she thinks it's bad. When he gets mad I get scared and embarrassed. He's told me about his ex's and that one of them spread a rumor that he used to hit her. I tried to get in contact with that girl to see if it's true but I could never find her. I need help REALLY badly....

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By the way I wrote this anonymously because I don't want him to find out that I'm asking this.

What you describe here is definitely abusive behavior on his part.  The jealousy over small things like mentioning other males;being afraid to take a walk; feeling trapped, just to mention a few...all these things say to me that you should get away from this man, now.  Don't wait.  You know by your own instinct that this is not how you want to be treated.  I'd say get out of this now.

Sooner or later this loser is going to smack you upside the head. I suggest you run your ass away from him before that happens.

If a little knowledge is a dangerous thing, then that makes me a burning truck filled with TNT hurtling through a rocket fuel depot.

He is showing major signs of possesiveness, You say he makes you feel guilty, that is just another powerplay to keep you in control. He likes to touch you uninvitinly, he has no respect for you or your family, He clings on to you like a leach, he is obssesed with you. Never feel guilty about anything you know you did not do. You need to end this, It can and possibly will get worst... Insecurity is the big factor to all his problems, sorry to say. Please.. if you do decide to say good-bye, have someone else with you for your saftey.. Take care and  I hope for the best.

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