I was raised in a large family and my parents divorced when I was 10 years old. In our society, divorce is taken lightly, as if it's not a big deal. Children are resilient, we say. You deserve to be ...
I think you are speaking to the bad effects that divorce brings to a family. However, there are also good effects that a divorce brings to the table. First, it brings a harmful and toxic marriage to a halt and lets the parties involved to breathe and establish a much better life. In a rotting marriage in which couples don't divorce because of what society will think about them and what will happen to their children if raised by separated parents, everybody suffers even more because they are forced in a marriage they no longer want to be part of. As an effect, the parent will always be arguing, creating an ugly environment to raise a child. In this case, it is feasible to call their marriage quits for the sake of the child and the family.
Also, there are reasons for divorce that compel a partner to separate from their spouses. For instance, who would want to remain married to a cheating infidel even after meeting up with our marriage counselors, or a physically abusing spouse? Personally, I would not because I deserve to be treated better. Corollary, my children deserve to be raised by a better man, one who has a good moral disposition and would set as a good example to the kids.