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How can I help with my daughter's depression when she won't take meds or see a therapist. She's 22 years old.

How can I help with my daughter's depression when she won't take meds or see a therapist.  She's 22 years old.

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you can try to get her out of the house,engage her in a hobby if she will.let her know that mental health is connected to physical health,eating right and exersising.try to express to her that a chemical imbalance can be a relitivly simple thing to treat, almost everyone has a chemical imbalance,and that she doesnt have to suffer.stay available to support her should her choices take a better turn.22 is still young and she may seek help with time as she relizes it is her responsibility to take care of her mind as much as her body.and while it is hard to hear, it is true that nobody can help another unless they want it.but you can always be ready to support the decision to accept help.

You can not help her unless she agrees to see a psychiatrist and a psychotherapist, and she takes her medications.

Sometimes it is very difficult for a child to take that kind of advice from a parent. I'mhonestly not sure why, i think it's the authority figure thing. When I was in the depths of my depression I could barely get out of bed, I just layed around and cried all day. My mom tried to help, but she was my mom & "couldn't possibly know what I'm going through". I ignored everything she said, but when my favorite aunt talked to me about her personal experiences with treating her depression, I started to listen and I got help. My life has turned around since then. Sometimes your just embarassed to talk to your mom plain and simple. Is there anyone in her life that she is already comfortable talking to who can help persuade her to see a professional?

Thanks cat girl for your reply. I appreciate it so much. The problem is that my daughter will not allow me to tell anyone she's depressed. The only ones who know are her father and I and her sister (they don't get along). She's too embarrassed for anyone else to know. She puts on an amazing act for everyone and they all think she's this carefree, happy person. It makes it so hard for us because we have a gag order. She told me if I ever tell anyone, she'll never forgive me. I just don't know what to do. I finally got her to a psychiatrist recently and he asked her only questions about sex. She was extremely uncomfortable and swore she'd never go back.

Thanks cat girl for your reply. I appreciate it so much. The problem is that my daughter will not allow me to tell anyone she's depressed. The only ones who know are her father and I and her sister (they don't get along). She's too embarrassed for anyone else to know. She puts on an amazing act for everyone and they all think she's this carefree, happy person. It makes it so hard for us because we have a gag order. She told me if I ever tell anyone, she'll never forgive me. I just don't know what to do. I finally got her to a psychiatrist recently and he asked her only questions about sex. She was extremely uncomfortable and swore she'd never go back.

This is too wierd, I could be reading my own history (accept I get along w/ my sis). It's extremely unfortunate that her first exp. was so bsd for her. If it helps at all I had to try 4 different therapists before I found one I was comfortable with, I felt the others were extremely judgemental and weren't realy hearing me.The one thing that helps the most is learning about others who have had similar depressive episodes and have gotten better, it gives you hope which is something depressed people need desperately and don't know how to find. As far as her never forgiving you, i have a short story...when I was a teenager I picked the lock on my sister's diary and read it (only once). What I found was that my sis had been writing over and over that she wanted to die. I knew if I told anyone she would know I read it and never forgive me (she can hold a grudge too).But I did it any ways because I loved her and she needed help desperately. She did eventually forgive me, because the therapy she got as a result helped her so much. I'm not saying blab all over about it, but do you know anyone who has dealt with this? You can also try buying some books telling how people have recovered. Don't give them to her though, just read them yourself and leave them laying around the house where she will see them and get curious. That way the info is right there in front of her in a non threatening way,she won't feel like its being pushed on her and noone but her will know if she looks at them so it will feel safe to her.


If she doesn’t want to go to a therapist or take meds, sit down with her, talk to her and  make her realize that you want to help her. Make sure to let her know that you love her and are concerned about her health. It needs loads of patience and love. Once you have started making her see that she really needs help, talk to her about counseling. Once she agrees to see a counselor, things should go smooth from there. Find a suitable treatment option and see her through it. Hope this helps.
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