Discuss Bonestructure's answer to: I have a very deep-seeded grudge against my ...

Please trust me on this, To hold hatred and anger like this. It doesn't hurt your brother, it hurts you. Forgiveness means that you free your heart to be happy. It sounds cliche,. I know, but I know this from experience. It took a long to to forgive my father for being an abusive drunk. But when I finally did forgive him, long after hje died, I finally started to learn how to be happy. Hatred and grudges are like chains that hold you down. Get rid of them and start to live beyond what happened in the past. Yes, your brother acted very badly, but you're only hurting yourself. If you can't forgive, believe me, a time will come when you will hurt not to be close with your brother.