Discuss girl's answer to: I have a very deep-seeded grudge against my ...

No Oone, my heart goes out to you. I understand it is so hard and hurtful to find your own brother not helping you when you need him the most. And it is absolutely normal to feel the way you do and to have bitterness because of it. And yes, as you've been already told, only forgiveness will set you free. But we are unable to do this on our own. Only God can heal our wounds and give us the power to forgive. So if you are willing, ask Him to start this journey with you. Yes, it is a journey... a long one unfortunately but you'll get there if you're willing.

I suggest you talk to your brother about it if you haven't done so. I'm not saying that you will definitely find an excuse for him, but it is possible though. Some people protect themselves by distancing themselves from the source of pain even if they are their own family. I'm not saying that this, or any other reason, is a good thing or that it should be the magical piece of information that will make you forgive your brother on the spot. But it'll help. And even if he didn't have any reason for not helping you other than being mean, it is still important to talk about it.