death of a parent

At the end of this month will be the one year ...

At the end of this month will be the one year anniversary of my husbands death. I am trying to come up with something to help my children deal with this. I have three teenage children that were exremely close with their father.

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Ken Reed Sr Answered:

The death of a parent is really hard. You didn't say what he died from. As a Hospice volunteer, I suggest that you just talk for a while. Let the children talk about their dad. Let them express the loss and how they feel now and what they have to look forward to.

Then let them decide how to celebrate his LIFE. Mostly Cheri, just be there for them and just listen. Grief is hardest if you can't let it go. You and all your children will be fine. Time lessens the hurt. Most people get angry at first because the loved one left. I hope you have a good support system ( friends and family, church, ect, ) God bless you and your teens. I know that this will work out for the best.

Ken Reed Sr

Posted 2 years ago

God is my Helmsman

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jkgrandma Answered:

They are teens - why not ask them how they would like to mark this life-altering event?

Perhaps they would like to talk about their dad, or look at photos or videos which include him.

Perhaps they would like to recreate one of his favorite meals or activities.

Perhaps they would just like to quietly reflect with each other, or by themselves.

Everyone processes grief in their own way. Listen and be there to share as much as they will let you, but allow them each to find their own path through your family's tragedy.

My condolences on your loss.

Posted 2 years ago

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nomorepbreaks Answered:

Cheri,

I'm very sorry to hear of your loss. If your children are having a difficult time grieving the loss of their father, they might benefit from grief counseling. Grieving spouses should also seek help for themselves. The death of a loved one is a difficult and painful experience. Many people don't get help when they lose someone close to them because they don't realize the full impact of the loss until much later and grief recovery can take be a lengthy process, usually taking several years. I suggest grief counseling for the whole family. There are some really great support groups too. Peace to you and your family.

Blessings,

~ nmpb ~