The way that "some" of the members here form their little click and try to run off the new members...I find to be a bit disturbing. It makes me wonder if that's why Yedda is changing the format so much. They are sick and tired of the old members telling them what to do. I notice they all stick together and answer people with demeaning and intimidating answers just to be funny...as if there are no hearts behind the fonts. Maybe some ARE bots...and maybe some ARE NOT. But who's to judge???
Well, I've certainly been accused of being a member of a "click" (sic). And I'm sure that some people consider some of my answers to be intimidating or demeaning.
But I have never tried to "run off" a new member, nor am I aware of any of my friends or acquaintances doing so.
Yes, people butt heads. Yes, sometimes we give answers that are snippy, sarcastic or just plain mean. So what?
We are all human and we all have opinions. And many of us "old members" tire of juvenile, silly or prurient questions which do nothing except take up space and waste our time.
Additionally, although us "old members" do not tell Yedda "what to do," we have been around long enough that Yedda values our input and asks our opinion (there are many of us here who were given an advance look at the new format).
Does that mean we have any pull, power or sway over what happens? Not in the least ~ but don't we wish! (If it did, it's a safe bet there would be a lot of changes to what you see...)
And as far as the people who ask questions, here are the two types of members which frustrate us the most: Newbies and Pro-Askers.
"Newbies" are not one individual person. They cannot reply to requests for further information, nor can they answer questions, post Comments or give someone a 'Helpful.' "Newbie" is a program Yedda offers so that people who are considering membership can ask an anonymous question. It's something that Yedda enacted as a means of encouraging people to explore what Yedda has to offer, and then hopefully join.
As far as "Pro-Askers," yes. They are actual people, not bots. But the very fact that they each cram Yedda's pages full of ten, twelve, thirty questions in a row on a daily basis says, to us, that they are far from being regular Yeddai.
Most of those questions stem from specific sites (partner sites of Yedda and its parent company, AOL) and they are here solely because of the partnership between the sites. In other words, it's a 'perk' of their site being able to do business with AOL/Yedda and it's tantamount to advertising.
Those of us who have been here any length of time don't take kindly to questions which are a) advertising or b) asked just to garner interest for a link or c) designed just to take up space without its asker caring one bit about a reply.
If you want to call that "judging," then just call me judgmental.
If not, welcome to Yedda. If you want to make friends, you might start by being friendly with everyone instead of attacking, sniping, sneaking or taking sides.
That's an interesting point, but I really haven't noticed anyone "trying to run off new members". - The 'bots' are a different matter and some of their questions are SO lame, they almost have to be false and just there to generate trade. -I do remember when there were many more real, interesting and challenging questions. - Some of this weeks crop - "why do all Jewish wives dislike sex" - "Is Miley Cyrus really Hannah Montana" - "What is 3/4 +3/4" - "How do you get free gas" - "how long is a penis" -"How do i teach my dog to have sex with me" - - - I mean REALLY, do you seriously think those are REAL questions from concerned people ? In my opinion that kind of crap DESERVES a demeaning and funny answer -
I think there is no judgment at all. It is EASY to see who the bo.........OK, if you don't like the word bot I'll use JK's word pro-askers, easy to see who they are. Their questions are always linked to an article. For example the article might be " What basic equipment do you need to go camping? " and the question will be What basic equipment do I need to go camping? It is a useless question because they are not going camping, they just want to draw traffic to the article.
As for Newbies - When to get off a dead horse? Brilliant!
We like Yedda but there is an increasing amount of garbage that we have to wade through.
Shuddupandkissme - I think you are an asset to Yedda. You are intelligent and sometimes funny. We like you. We're not trying to get rid of new people, just the garbage.
Jk, that was very well said. We have always been open to any new members joining right in on all of the fun. It makes no difference to me whether someone has been here a long time or if they arrived yesterday as long as they behave like they have some sense.
When we come across the bots and pro-askers, of course we treat them differently.
When, however, a "new" member shows up, sticks their head into other people's business (which no REAL new members ever do), attack, snipe, sneak, take sides, and private message other members about certain other regular members trying to stir the pot... they usually aren't welcomed with open arms. As JK put it, 'Nuff said.'
And by the way, this 'new member' just so happens to be my husband's ex and that is what this whole thing is about.
I wouldn't have had a clue who you were here under your new s/n of shuddup if you weren't following me around taking swipes at me. You gave yourself away my dear. Now that I'm onto you and you've had your bit of fun...how about this... You answer questions and leave me alone for a change? Thanks for your much anticipated cooperation.
Now that you have expressed your opinion, please recommend some positive steps for us. I am truly and sincerely interested in your response, not attempting to be mean, sarcastic, or heartless.
Aah JKG, an excellent post ! - As usual, I rushed off a speedy answer then hopped back later to see what everyone else has to say and find you've written everything I REALLY wanted to say, but with diplomacy, sagacity and perspicuous acuity ! - far better than I could have done - Thanks -
1. I agree with charlie.
2. Alas the "quality" of the questions has certainly slipped of late.
3. Keep in mind that many of the newbies are just that, immature kids that ask immature questions, which I generally ignore.
As far as I'm concerned shutupandkissme...Yes, some of my answers can be on the 'less than serious side'. But anyone with a half a brain would know I'm only joking. And only one time did I 'butt heads' with a new member, and I apologized. A lot of us old and new members have taken our share of 'hits' on this site. But I say, if you can't stand the heat...get outta da kitchen! Also, I'd like to add...Yedda's 'new format'...has many more improvements to be made. Such as, do away with AKA's...and do away with 'invisible' profiles , such as yourself shutupandkissme....of which I find to be VERY disturbing....as well as 'disturbed'.........
.....so here ...have a lolly-pop!
Other people asked questions on various topics, and are still waiting for answer. Would be great if you can take a sec and answer them