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How do I get my child to listen when I say no?

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When we say no to a child, essentially we're saying two things:
1. Stop what you're doing
2. Do something else instead
Which is a big ask from a child who's still only just emerging from babyhood. So you will make life much easier for both of you if you cut to step 2 and tell her what you want her to do instead.

If we say anything repeatedly to our children, then it becomes just a load of 'Blah blah blah' to them and they do stop paying attention. If you want your child to obey you, you need to do more than just say no.

As much as possible, tell her what you want her to do rather than what you don't. If you ration the nos she'll take more notice of them. When you feel yourself about to say no, ask yourself what you'd prefer her to do and tell her that instead. This'll make it easier for her to change her behaviour because you'll be giving her more options.
Do you want a totally compliant child who bows to your every whim? Actually, that would be quite handy sometimes, but also not much fun. Be grateful that she's got a spirited personality that'll support her well in life.

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jkgrandma Answered:

It's not what you say, it's how you say it.

First of all, TELL; don't ask. Which of the following sounds like you?

A) "It's time to go to bed now, okay?"

B) "Time for bed!"

If you have fallen into the 'A' habit, then what do you do after your child says, "No!" Because I can guarantee you, he will do so.

Plain and simple, begin as you mean to go on.

Your child needs you to be a parent, not his best friend. You are here to take care of him and to teach him, not to make him like you. If you are doing your job, there will be many times when your child doesn't like you. In fact, there will days when he downright hates you!

Never let that stop you from saying 'No.'

It would be helpful to know the exact circumstance in which you're having trouble, but since you don't go into details the best I can offer is to keep it simple and to follow through.

Child: I want a cookie.

Parent: No, not for breakfast.

Child: But I want one!

Parent: Not right now.

Child: (Pushing away bowl of cereal) I don't like this!

Parent: Okay, then you can have a banana and a piece of toast.

Child: No! Cookie!!!

Parent: (walks away and goes about her business) I see you're not hungry right now. Okay, you can have something later. Now it's time to get ready to go.

Then, do as Bill Cosby suggested in one of his routines, years ago. "You say to a 2 year old child, 'Come here!' The child says 'No!' You go get it. That's 'Yes!'"

Capisce?

Posted 3 years ago

Turn off the television and teach your children how to think. ~ Believe none of what you hear and half of what you see. (B. Franklin) ~ I do not respond in Comments ~ Trespassers will be eaten. Cowards, idiots and spammers will be shot on sight. ~ YeddaHeads

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Ol' Yeddar Answered:

Do not think that it is your job to make your child happy if you choose to raise him to be a credit to himself, to you, to his family, to his country, and to his GOD.

Jay

Posted 3 years ago

Keep close to Nature's heart... climb a mountain or spend a week in the woods. Wash your spirit clean.* Victims of circumstance owe it to fate. Victims of choice owe it to themselves.*One of the widest gaps in human experience is the gap between what we say we want to be and our willingness to discipline ourselves to get there.

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darkslk2200 Answered:

This is a good question!I wait more advices!

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nomorepbreaks Answered:

Unless your child is deaf, he/she heard you.

Holiday Blessings,

nmpb

Posted 2 years ago

"LEARNING is fundamental!" God, Self, Country...in that order. VISION, Change and Education=PROGRESS

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Martin Dep Answered:

Don't try to implement anything on your child if he has some confusion to accept it. You should help him instead to make him clear that some thing is not better for him. Suppose if he wants to drive the car, allow him to sit on the driving car, after a while he will get realized that he can't do it. But if your child is trying some thing which may hurt his moral values in future, you will have to be little strict on him.