is this child molestation? I was married for 10 months, had a 7 year old step-daughter.I noticed several things that made me feel nervous. My ex slept with his daughter in her toddler bed every other ...
I see why you're concerned and I am imagining that you are feeling somewhat guilty, considering what you're thinking your spouse might or might not have done.
I also know that once a week until I was 12 or so, my mother and father would alternate coming in to sleep with me. They would go to their own bed after I fell asleep but those were great childhood times for me...a time of innocence. I can see how you might have been torn between thinking it was odd or wondering if it was normal. I'd say for some, it's normal...and for others, it's odd.
This isn't your fault and you ended the marriage for whatever reason, in a very short period of time. You voiced your concerns about the child and I can see why this may still bother you. But don't let people on the internet make you feel worse than you already do because they weren't in the situation and may have made the same decisions you did in the same time frame. There are many people on this site that are helpful and just like in real life there are many that like to stir the pot.
My feeling is that you took the necessary steps to do the right thing. It's easy for us and probably you...to come to a certain conclusion based on all you've told us quickly, but we weren't living it and trying to sort it out.
Don't hold on to any guilt. If you feel you need to do more to rectify the situation, do it. Otherwise, let it go. You aren't the guilty party here.