is this child molestation? I was married for 10 months, had a 7 year old step-daughter.I noticed several things that made me feel nervous. My ex slept with his daughter in her toddler bed every other weekend, I saw them spooning, I also saw him on several occasions wiping her bum. When I left my husband due to abuse of finances, pychsically assaulting me, I called the police, the next day I went to work and my ex didnt go to work I guess, took some of his belongings, including the sheets and pillow case off his daughters toddler bed, then replaced the sheets with another set. I bought the sheets and the bed so thought it was odd, he took those items. Anyway, every other weekend of 2 years, this child slept in bed with her father, I was a newlywed and slept alone every otherweekend, I wasnt jealous, but thought it was odd like I said. I even became prego, and miscarried, both occasions he still slept in the bed with his daughter. Well after not speaking to him for 6 months and my filing for divorce, out of the blue in December the childs mother called me and said "what happened at your house last october". I told the mother I didnt know what she mean't. The mother said she caught her daughter place a childs party hat into the privates of a cousins daughter. Then the child said she learned it at my house from her daddy. At this time in December the child got on the phone, 3 way, I heard her, the mother and the grandmother. I asked the child "hi, honey I havent talked to you in like 6 months, how are you, She said daddy hurt me. I said, did daddy yell at you and it hurt your feelings? She said no daddy touched me? I said, did daddy give you a hug or something? she said no, daddy touched my privates. I said its ok, honey you did nothing wrong, thank you for telling me you are a big girl, I am proud of you, Then the mother said she was calling the police, I told her I would meet her there. AT the police station, the cop asked 1 question to the child "where did this occur'? the child pointed to me and said at my house. The police then said thank you for telling me that. Then next thing I know the mother gets a 10 day restraining order on the father (my ex husband), while DCF investigated. I was not called by the state or anything, but the childs mother said numerous times in front of me and the mother "daddy touched my privates". Next thing you know the mother called me saying that the father was there at court claiming it was the mothers live in boyfriend, now mind you my ex, when I brought to his attention while still married that something is not right with the child, he all of a sudden came out saying the mothers step-father was molesting his kid., Well the mothers step-father died and then all of a sudden the mothers live in boyfriend was then being blamed. The child backed down during the district attorney hearing, so then nothing became of all of this. And I did not hear from the mother ever again, because she did tell me that if DCF clears it, the court will not extend the 10 day restraining order and told the child that when daddy gets to see her again, then I would need to be out of the picture. So my question to all of this is, Am I missing something here about child molestion charges? The child had indicated before to me while still married that she "wanted to feel rainbows in her brain but feels clouds". I tried to talk to her, but careful not to coach, she made up strange names, with the letters sounding exactly like my ex-husbands first name. In February, 2 months, after all this, I filed my own 51A order with the state because I feel it was wrong that the states DCF office did not contact me, since the child at the police station pointed to me and said "it occured at my house",. And with the behavior I saw going on between child and father did not seem normal. And the child even was taught to lie, She would say "daddy bought me this gift but told me not to tell you". I know I have moved on in my life, but I had a step child in my life I feel is in danger, it pains me that I did what I could, can't do anymore, but fear the child is still being molested at age 8 now.
