Did I cheat on my girl?


I'm in a serious relationship.  We have a child together and are unmarried, but are serious about getting married.
 
kind of bizarre
 
my girl is going away to take care of her dying grandmother in Houston and I won't see her for sometime.  My son will be staying with my girl's mom or his grandmother.   I will not be having sex, but I'm having nightmares of having an affair.
 
I woke up in a cold sweat this morning.  I wrote this
 
"last night I had I an affair with another woman in a nightmare while Sara was in Houston. I didn't actually, but I found myself wondering how Sara was going to deal with that. I would never actually, but I am very lonely.... I didn't actually have sex in my dream strangely enough, but I found myself perplexed and dealing with a second woman's emotional baggage and missed dreams. I never want to feel like I ruined another person's life again. I don't know if I could ever go with another person. I'm not making this up. I just woke up from the nightmare. It wasn't pleasant and she was definitely in love with me. She was a little bit chubbier then Sara and we got taken advantage of by a tough Man fiscally who forced us and paid us in cough drops when we had diamonds. I then found myself expressing myself like a mime and could not speak. I slowly danced in break dance towards a hospital where my girl Sara was trying to get a job.. "
 
what does this mean? 

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Hi,
Don't over do it.... you go too much too far.  People dream a lot and it has no meaning.  I dreamt several times on car accidents and plane crush..... Thousands years people tried to "solve dreams" (since the famous Joseph at Egypt) but no connection was found.  Still many people believe in dreams as if they reflect something..... I don't and if I were you I wouldn't even give it a 2nd thought....  a dream is a dream nothing more......  at most it says that you are a healthy faithful man that loves Sara and miss her......
Best regards,

Love is the battery of life....

It is hard to believe in coincidences when one speaks of the human mind

Man who lives in glass house dresses in basement

1.  You didn't cheat.  It's called a dream.

2.  You feel abandoned by your wife, not wishing to be alone, and feel guilty for feeling that way and blame her for it, which still makes you feel more guilty.

3.  It's a dream.  They get random images, and your brain just tries to make sense of the random images, and that's it. 

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I think I get the obvious stuff like I miss my girl.  What was with the cough drops and diamonds?

 

I'm not married BTW.  I have a child with a woman who won't marry me because I lost my job 

Man who lives in glass house dresses in basement

Don't worry. Its simple... You mind is busy with being lonely, wanting to have sex and not wanting to have an affair with another woman. This mixture of sexual desire and fears are reflected in your dream. Examples:

1. You obviously are NOT interested in the consequences of having an affair: "...she was definitely in love with me.." ..."I found myself perplexed and dealing with a second woman's emotional baggage and missed dreams..." You are extremely aware of the fact that sex creates an emotional baggage you do not wish to deal with. 

2. You wouldn't trade Sara for another: "he paid us in cough drops when we had diamonds" - your relationship with Sara is the diamonds, this alleged other woman is the cough drops.

YES & NO.  Separation from her is causing you drift. In the day you are ok, but in your subconscience you are not ok with the long separation.  Since you have not acted on this dream, you have not committed the offense with your body, but you have already committed it with your mind.  You are only a MAN, it is very honourable, that you are faithfull.  You will have to castrate yourself if you don't get to see her soon. Your hormons are going nuts.

Lady

DREAM: the other women is the cough drop, Sara is the diamond. You won in your dream.  You are a Conqueror.  

I have had recurrent dreams, broke out in sweats with terror, till I finally won.  You are fornutate you won the battle in 1 dream. The dream will come back, if their are any lose ends.

Lady

DREAM:   This is the best dream I have ever read. I think you could make a movie from it and make money.  Dreams like this can be packaged and sold. 

I am not trying to take away from the reality of the dream, it was so real and touching.

Lady

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