If you could change one characteristic of the person you love; what would it be & why?

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There are certainly things about my lady friend that annoy me. Just as there are things about me that bug her ( for example my seeming inability to put the toilet paper on the role facing the right direction.)( Oh, Whatever. )

 

However. I love her. And she is not any one part of herself, but the sum total of them. If I took out the parts that bug me. I would deminish who she really is.

 

Hay. You think I'm crazy? You should hear the voices in my head. Those people have issues.

I would be younger.

Gratitude as a discipline involves a conscious choice.....* Victims of circumstance owe it to fate. Victims of choice owe it to themselves.*One of the widest gaps in human experience is the gap between what we say we want to be and our willingness to discipline ourselves to get there.

Boss, you get crazier every day.

 

Uncle Frank

Gratitude as a discipline involves a conscious choice.....* Victims of circumstance owe it to fate. Victims of choice owe it to themselves.*One of the widest gaps in human experience is the gap between what we say we want to be and our willingness to discipline ourselves to get there.

If you love a person, why would you want to change them?

Lynn-

I like the spirit of your answer, but I cannot agree with it.

There are many people that I love. Some smoke. I would like to change them. Some are fat. I would like to change them. Some have annoying habits. I would like to change them. Some drink too much. I would like to change them. Some are immature. I would like to change them.

There is nothing wrong in wanting to change a person if that change makes him a better person. And I am not the one making the Liszt of ideal characteristics. Someone recently posted  something about not changing anything about America was to insure America's doom. In life, we are all on a journey, either moving forward or backward. To remain unchanged is tantamount to moving backward.

There are plently of reasons that I might want a person to change. The reasons that are selfish are just so wrong.

Gratitude as a discipline involves a conscious choice.....* Victims of circumstance owe it to fate. Victims of choice owe it to themselves.*One of the widest gaps in human experience is the gap between what we say we want to be and our willingness to discipline ourselves to get there.

I use to think like that, too, until I found myself truly in love with this poor soul I fell for.  The person they are was apparent the day we met and that is the person I fell in love with, bad habits and all.  If they are wanting to change, then that's great, but it certainly is no reflection on the state of our relationship if they have no desire to do so.  All reasons for wanting to change a person from what they are certainly appear to be selfish, don't you think?  You want that person to stop bad health habits so they'll stay healthy longer and therefore stay with you longer ensuring your own state of content.  Not desiring your loved one to change does not mean that you want them to stay the way they are, which would be just as bad as wanting them to change; when you love a person you want what makes them happy, irregardless of how you might feel about it and if they want to change, you support that change, but only if they want to change.  But all that is the ideal situation I think--I do try to change the dangerous habits that a few people I love practice, but it always leads to grief unless the desire comes from them and what are you going to do about it if they don't change?  Cut them out of your life?  I don't think so...

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