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Bossy 5 year old

I have a 5 year old daughter that is very attached to me (her mom). Its not that she won't interact with other kids/adults because she is very social. It has become more of a problem within our family. She tends to "call the shots" as to what she wants. She will say "i want mommy to bathe me" "i want mommy to drive", "sit next to me mommy". I don't mind it as much, but it affects my husband, because she can sometimes say mean things to him. He tries not to take it personally, but I can see that it is starting to get to him and it is changing the dynamic between us as well since he says I don't stick up for him. I'm kind of stuck. What do I do? I want everyone to be happy:)

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matt Answered:

You need to step up and be your daughter's MOTHER, not her friend, not her buddy, and certainly not her subservient family member.____________Also you really need to stand up for your husband as well, and show your daughter that it's ok to want certain things (like sitting next to Mommy, or having Mommy bathe her), but she needs to ASK nicely.....and SOMETIMES she won't get exactly what she wants.____________Daddy needs to be involved in bathing, and driving, since he's ALSO her parental figure.____________Either way, show a united front to your daughter, and teach her to ask for things, but not always EXPECT them, and you'll all be much happier.___________Kids need boundaries, and to be taught life lessons. Letting her TELL you what's going to happen will just set her up for major disappointments in the real world.________Hope it helps and good luck!

(sorry for all ____ lines, it wouldn't let me start new paragraphs)