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I'm apart of an abusive relationship how do i get out without being a coward

i'm apart of a verbally and sometimes physically abusive relationship, i moved 1500 miles to be with him 2 years ago and i feel it's time to leave him, things are getting worse not better and ive never been in this situation before nor have i broken up with someone before, what would be the easiest, safest, less painful way to break up with him. i'd feel like a coward if i just packed my things and left, ive tried over and over again to make things work and they haven't, he's controlling over everything, my medications, he calls me fat and ugly all of the time and even threaten abuse against my 8lb pet and myself. i do love my boyfriend but i feel unsafe around him, and i feel as if i'm putting my pet in danger as well in new york state things are totally different.. could you please give me good advice. like step by step advice, i'm in desprete need.

I have a ticket to leave in 2 weeks, i need a less cowardly way out, i feel horrible leaving him but i can no longer deal with the abuse, he keeps saying he'll change and it never happens. my option is to go home 1500 miles away to be with my loved ones. I've been crying all night trying to figure out what would be the least painful way for both of us to end things. he keeps saying he doesnt want to be with me but refuses to end things. This is my first time ever ending a relationship. PLEASE help me, i need it as soon as possible.

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I hope you are an open person so I won't need to sugarcoat my words.  The only thing that is important is that you leave him as soon as possible.  The way you do it is simply NOT important.  It shouldn't bother you if it is a brave way or a coward way.  You took a brave decision: leave him and forget about the rest.  Don't even leave a note behind,  Let him worry and guess.  He is not worth more than that.  Good luck and G-d bless.

Love is the battery of life....

Just leave. Who cares how he feels. He's abusive. If he knows you're leaving he'll just get worse, beat the hell out of you, maybe kill you. Run like hell, far away.

If a little knowledge is a dangerous thing, then that makes me a burning truck filled with TNT hurtling through a rocket fuel depot.

he abuses you, no woman deserves to go through that.to hell with thinking your a coward just get out of there and leave him. You can't just tolerate that,either leave or call the cops because your better than him and you need to remember that.

a person should be as enthusiastic and dangerous as Legolas

I wonder why you still love him and feel horrible about leaving him. He has issues, he needs to seek help and he doesn't respect you (and there's no love without respect by the way) but at the same time can't leave you because he developed some dependency on you... and you on him! LEAVE HIM NOW. Go back to your healthy relationships with family and friends- people who really respect you and care for you. You will not die without a man. You can be fully woman without one!

Jesus is the truth, the way, and the LIFE

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