What happen from the single sex to married sex after the 13 years?

You just lost the sizzle, put a little romance back into your life.

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Good luck and best wishes. 

No one can help you if you do not indicate why your marriage fizzled out and what your wife's reasons.

It could be a fadz or questionable about ohter womens body parts like a guy would like at. Starting from the chest to the hair and last thing how the other women butt look to her but, she said she not gay but i would before and asked her she brushed off think that i was crazy and normal to do that i'm confused?

I try too hard and plan time with just like when i had two jobs before i'd made time for here and three step-childerns now i drive trucks she took on a second job and less time with me and she said that i should be understnading but her part time is with church after work to fill in her time . But ,she get angry to when she's busy and i want time with her i go by my self. And her mind start wondering what am i doingwithout her made time for one not two.

People can grow in two separate ways. It happens...

Romance does not start in the bedroom. It starts with being well groomed with a clean appearance and a clean smell,  a loving glance, a caring  attitude, being a team player when it comes to taking care of the children and the house work (don't forget the laundry). A gental touch of the hand or a gentle kiss on the neck during the day will go a long way. Don't think that romance starts with the kiss and gentle touch in the evening, it should start first thing in the morning; that way he/she can think about it during the day. It is extremely important to be well groomed on the weekends too. Some people get way too casual on the weekends by not showering and wearing sloppy clothing.  If you are wearing a baseball hat on the weekend so you don't have to style your hair or if you are not shaving, most likely nothing is going to happen in the bedroom. Show your spouce that you appreciate and love her/him continuously thoughout every day, not just when you want to get your grove on. It is the little, everyday things that make the difference. Romance starts by caring enough about yourself to be your best for your spouce. So, polish yourself up everyday and gaze into your spouces eyes and express how much love you feel. Do this evryday and you will be surprised because your spouce will want more of you, especially in the evening.

I obviously don't know the whole story, so please don't think anything I say applies to you.  I don't want to have sex with my husband.  We have A LOT of problems, but the sex was the last thing to go.  I used to have an insatiable sex drive, wanted 2 or 3 times a day, even after we had kids, however, he didn't.  After a while, it became a chore to try to get him to do it.  Pardon my bluntness.  Now he whines how I never want to have sex with him!  Whatever!  But in your case, you might be able to get the romance back.  But I agree that for a woman, (and some men, not being sexist here) it starts long before the date even.  It's about the sharing, talking, and just plain having FUN.  MMMM, fun, haven't had fun in sooooo long.  Anyway, it may take some "behavioral" changes, and may take a couple weeks or months, but if you do the right things, trust me, it will be worth the wait.  All the things that people think are "hokey" like flowers, candy, long walks, romantic restaurants, wow, I WISH my husband would do those things.  Geez, I wish he'd even look my way and talk to me once in a while!  Now I'm at the point where it just doesn't matter, even though, maybe, just maybe, if he would try, but he won't, sooooooo.  Try some of those things, find out her favorite stuff, and add those things, trying new things (not sexual at first) as a couple is really something that would make me give it up! lol  But seriously, good luck and hope anything here was of some help!