Discuss girl's answer to: Im having an affair and I don´t know what to do

Elden is absolutely right: if you marry your boyfriend, you will definitely have an affair again. Besides, you can't build your marriage on lies. And remember, you reap what you sow!

Anyway, it's a good start that you realize that you shouldn't continue with this lifestyle. You need to wake up, have some respect for yourself, and identify what exactly you want out of a relationship. Is it all about you? You get faithfulness and kindness from your boyfriend and you get sexual satisfaction from the other guy? Where's the giving part? Don't use your partner. Love is about giving, and when you give, you receive, and it doesn't work vice versa.