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Advice Please - "What does go with the Flow" really mean?

I recently met up with an old guy friend who confessed that he has been interested in me for the entire duration of our friendship. He's single but I'm... um on my way out of a relationship (my ex calls, long story). Anyways, since we've been casual friends (he calls on occasion, I call on occasion etc) for about 8+yrs I felt comfortable to let him know that although I was oblivious to his feelings I would be happy to get to know him romantically as I love hanging out with him and genuinely like him. Now, I don't know if he like the idea of us or the reality of it.

It's been three short weeks of challenges as he is dealing with some personal issues in his life. But what baffles me is that he has become emotionally unavailable and very "hot and cold". I don't know if it's because of my situation or if that's just the way he is in romantic situations or if he's afraid of getting hurt . I casually mentioned this to him in the sense that it's difficult to get to know you as I cannot tell the difference between "him" and "his mood swings". He said...."Why don't we try to just go with the flow and see how things end up?" What does that mean? I don't get it.

I told him that whatever the status of our relationship I just want him to be happy, and that's the god honest truth. I'm trying to be sensitive to his situation, cause I know he must be going through a lot, but his actions are starting to turn me off completely. I'm not gonna wait around for him and at this point I just want to walk away and be grateful that we never got intimate.

On the other end I am his friend and I want to be there for him. How do I support my friend yet deal with the hot and cold maneuverings our possible romantic relationship? And what does that "Go with the flow" thing mean? I think I know but I don't want to assume

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I don't no this guy, but it seems 2 me he wants 2 take it 1 day at a time. If u feel uncomfortable (like ur walikg on eggshells) with him now, U might want 2 rethink ur relationship with him. Sometimes friendships can b ruined when they become romantic relationships. I've been with the same man the last 91/2 yrs, got married 21/2 yrs ago. Things don't get any better, they more or less stay the same, so what ur getting now, mostlikely won't change. good luck 2 the both of u.

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I don't no this guy, but it seems 2 me he wants 2 take it 1 day at a time. If u feel uncomfortable (like ur walking on eggshells) with him now, U might want 2 rethink ur relationship with him. Sometimes friendships can b ruined when they become romantic relationships. I've been with the same man the last 91/2 yrs, got married 21/2 yrs ago. Things don't get any better, they more or less stay the same, so what ur getting now, mostlikely won't change. good luck 2 the both of u.

Go with the flow basically means to just see what happens and let things happen naturally. I think he also doesn't want a label put on the relationship b/c he wants to see how things go first. It sounds like he might have commitment issues or some other issues and like Squirrell said, things don't get better. They either stay the same and in some cases get worse. The beginning is supposed to be the "honeymoon stage" If you aren't happy with him now, he is probably not the one for you.

go with the flow might mean "let things happen naturally" without any pressures or standards that stand on your way. love is viewed as healthy when you let go of things and simply enjoy the time with each other.

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Thank you guys.  I've decided to let go of that situation, distance myself emotionally and just be there for him as a friend (no benefits) . I don't know what the future holds but i suspect we will remain just friends :)

Thanks again for all your help.

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