I recently met up with an old guy friend who confessed that he has been interested in me for the entire duration of our friendship. He's single but I'm... um on my way out of a relationship (my ex calls, long story). Anyways, since we've been casual friends (he calls on occasion, I call on occasion etc) for about 8+yrs I felt comfortable to let him know that although I was oblivious to his feelings I would be happy to get to know him romantically as I love hanging out with him and genuinely like him. Now, I don't know if he like the idea of us or the reality of it.
It's been three short weeks of challenges as he is dealing with some personal issues in his life. But what baffles me is that he has become emotionally unavailable and very "hot and cold". I don't know if it's because of my situation or if that's just the way he is in romantic situations or if he's afraid of getting hurt . I casually mentioned this to him in the sense that it's difficult to get to know you as I cannot tell the difference between "him" and "his mood swings". He said...."Why don't we try to just go with the flow and see how things end up?" What does that mean? I don't get it.
I told him that whatever the status of our relationship I just want him to be happy, and that's the god honest truth. I'm trying to be sensitive to his situation, cause I know he must be going through a lot, but his actions are starting to turn me off completely. I'm not gonna wait around for him and at this point I just want to walk away and be grateful that we never got intimate.
On the other end I am his friend and I want to be there for him. How do I support my friend yet deal with the hot and cold maneuverings our possible romantic relationship? And what does that "Go with the flow" thing mean? I think I know but I don't want to assume