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Wright Asked:

Being “congruent”

In the past, you’ve also mentioned that guys need to be “congruent”. Could you explain what that means as well?

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David DeAngelo Answered:

Sure, the idea of being "congruent" when you communicate simply means to have ALL LEVELS of your communication be "in alignment" with each other and "saying the same thing".

   If you're asking a woman for her number, but you're looking around nervously and hesitating, it's not "congruent".

   On the other hand, if you're saying "Write down your email and number for me" while taking out a pen and paper... as if it's the 147th time that you've done it, it's CONGRUENT.

   Most people don't realize that they're sending MIXED MESSAGES all the time.

   Have you ever asked someone "What's wrong?" and had them say "NOTHING'S WRONG! Why does everyone keep asking me what's wrong?".

   That's a mixed message. And it's not congruent.

   You want to “line up” ALL of your communication.

   Your body language, voice tone, words, etc.

   All of the different specific body language, voice tone, and gestures that I recommend in my programs have a single goal in mind: To help you be 100% CONGRUENT when you are communicating with women.

The more congruent you are, and the more you use the techniques that I'm teaching, the better your responses from women will become.